A few years ago, I used to truly love someone who I would shower with affection and love. As a direct result, one day this person said that it, and that I, seemed “clingy”. Then I started to hold back my affection and love. It eventually took a toll on me and my love, but mostly it was my spirit that took a big hit. I wondered all that time if something could be wrong with me for being so “clingy”, but was I really?
Then some time after I removed myself from that person’s life, I realized that there was nothing wrong with me and I was not clingy at all. I gave plenty of space and distance and was very autonomous all along. I was all those things plus affectionate, loving and demonstrative. So no, there was nothing wrong with me after all.
It was something more to do with a person who felt so much discomfort from giving and receiving genuine affection and love in a demonstrative way, and in a way that was safe. There was something that made this person feel uncomfortable about the giving and receiving demonstrable affection and love.
So I let go of that baggage because it was not my baggage. Although it had become so for a short period of time. It also caused my spirit to feel miserable. I chose to send that person love, light, healing and whatever else it was that they needed from the universe. Now I choose to show affection and love, to be the demonstrative person I naturally am most of the time, and my spirit is much healthier for it.
Affection is good. Love is good. Feel it, give it and receive it. It feeds your spirit.
Counselor Xiomara A. Sosa